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Dance or Not Dance at Your Event

Updated: Oct 14, 2019


It’s not an unusual occurrence for an event planner to face a daunting dilemma of whether to dance or not dance at their event.  Many people may as, “Why?” as dancing is a great way to celebrate an event and has been used as such for many centuries.


Three months, two weeks, and 3 days until the wedding, Rebecca is still torn about what type of entertainment to provide for her reception. She has hired a live band (Jazz Revolution) to perform her cocktail hour and reception, but she hasn’t given explicit instructions on the music selection. Her fiance Devin is excited mostly about the reception. If it were his choice, he would move directly to the part where everyone is partying and celebrating his union to his new bride. His relatives are also ready to party until “sun-up” with him. Rebecca, on the other hand, is terrified of this part of the reception. Not because she doesn’t want to party as she also wishes to celebrate with her new husband. The problem lies with her relatives. You see…Rebecca’s family is very religious and they do not believe in things that contradict the ideal behavior for their religion. She has been repeatedly lectured by her mother and father about integrity and honor and that dancing and partying violates their core spiritual beliefs. She respects and values her parents’ opinion and is torn on the decision to dance or not dance.

Rebecca is not the only bride-to-be who has been faced with this conundrum. It’s not easy bringing two distinct families together on an event and have them mingle and gel in perfect harmony. A bride’s wedding day is one of the most important days of her life so it is understandable that a certain level of stress would accompany the many preparations needed to ensure the event is successful. However, it shouldn’t be stressful to the point that it could cause unnecessary emotional and/or physical harm. Although a wedding day is one where couples wish to share their union with family and friends, it is important for them to realize that it is their day and that everyone in attendance is at the mercy of their wishes. If outside parties are not happy with that, either they can grow up and enjoy the event or stay home. In Rebecca’s case, no one is forcing her parents to dance, but they should not hinder anyone else from having a good time.

It is always a good idea to keep your audience and event type in mind when trying to decide whether to dance or not dance.  For example, if you are planning a memorial service for veterans on Memorial Day, that might not be the best time to breakout “Brick House” and tear up a dance floor.  Use common sense and judgement when planning your event and this will ensure your guests will have a great time.  As for Rebecca…she had a talk with Devin and they decided that they would bring the reception to a close with no dancing through 8pm.  At that time, the band would break and guests will be informed that they are welcomed to stay to enjoy the dance celebration or they would be free to leave as the party will start at 8:30pm sharp.  Compromise at its best.

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